Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you. The sky’s are clear, the trees are green, and the mountains are high but just for today have it your way..~ Aldous Huxley
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To my children, If A Could Give You One Thing In Life, I Would Give You The Ability To See Yourself Through My Eyes. Only Then Would You Realize How Special You Are To Me…
Most common misinformation on Grief
Today is a great day to begin your healing process. After you get pass the misinformation replace it with love.
Time heals. Time does not heal, action within time
does. We know people who have waited 10, 20, 30 or
even 40 years to feel better.
Grieve alone. Often this advice is subtly implied,
“Give your mom her space” or “He just needs a few
minutes alone in the other room.” As children, we
learn that this means that sad feelings should be
hidden or experienced alone.
Be strong. Usually the Griever is asked to be strong
for others. “You have to be strong for your [wife]” or
“Be strong for your children.”
Don’t feel bad. This is usually followed by an
intellectually true statement but is not helpful at all
to the Griever, “Don’t feel bad, his su_ering is over.”
or “Don’t feel bad, at least you knew her as long as
Replace the loss. This is common with pet loss or
the end of a romantic relationship. “On Tuesday
we’ll get you a new dog” or “There are plenty of fish
in the sea. You just have to get out there and date
again.” Most likely there has been no action taken to
grieve over the loss of the pet or relationship, just an
attempt at not feeling the emotions attached to the
Keep busy. “If I just keep busy then I won’t have
time to think about the loss.” This one is sad
because some people spend their whole lives with
this mentality and never get a chance to grieve and
complete what was unfinished with the particular
Recovering from a significant emotional loss is not
an easy task. Taking the actions that lead to
recovery will require your attention,
open-mindedness, willingness, and courage. It not the in but a new beginning.
Except from The Grief Recovery Method, griefrecoverymethod.com
Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. King Whitney Jr. Don’t allow the psychological impact of change discourage the greatest dicussion you ever made in your life. Which can impact you for the rest of your life.
You have set goals, objectives and visions it’s time to see them through. Today, change inwardly by stepping out on faith.
Do you really know what your family members are thinking on a regular bases? Are you even listening to them? Do you hear them? Someone near you may be saying thinking this right now. However, you may never know because society has minimize family time. When we spend quality time together we can actually hear whats on one anthers hearts. When was the last time your family had dinner, an outing, or even prayer together. Just wondering! One of the main keys in relationship building is communication. Can you hear me?
I pray you to set your heart upon this, and to offer the humble prayer, “Lord, now reveal yourself to me, so that I may never lose the sight of you. Give me to understand that through the thick darkness you come to make yourself known.” Let not one heart doubt, however dark it may be at midnight – whatever midnight there may be in the soul – in the dark, Christ can reveal Himself.”
Peace Be Still!!!!!
David A. H. Gavin
Stress will stretch couples within a blended family, until all the elastic is gone if you allow it. The sibling wars, parental divided, In laws, exes, health issues and the list goes on.
Before you make that final decision to leave or stay because the pressure is just to much to bear. Reflect back on your wedding vows. It was a few words that stated “for better or worst, sickness and in health, richer or poor” etc…. Now as you may be contemplating packing your baggage’s take a few moments out an inhale, exhale, pray and then decide.