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Most common misinformation on Grief
Today is a great day to begin your healing process. After you get pass the misinformation replace it with love.
Time heals. Time does not heal, action within time
does. We know people who have waited 10, 20, 30 or
even 40 years to feel better.
Grieve alone. Often this advice is subtly implied,
“Give your mom her space” or “He just needs a few
minutes alone in the other room.” As children, we
learn that this means that sad feelings should be
hidden or experienced alone.
Be strong. Usually the Griever is asked to be strong
for others. “You have to be strong for your [wife]” or
“Be strong for your children.”
Don’t feel bad. This is usually followed by an
intellectually true statement but is not helpful at all
to the Griever, “Don’t feel bad, his su_ering is over.”
or “Don’t feel bad, at least you knew her as long as
Replace the loss. This is common with pet loss or
the end of a romantic relationship. “On Tuesday
we’ll get you a new dog” or “There are plenty of fish
in the sea. You just have to get out there and date
again.” Most likely there has been no action taken to
grieve over the loss of the pet or relationship, just an
attempt at not feeling the emotions attached to the
Keep busy. “If I just keep busy then I won’t have
time to think about the loss.” This one is sad
because some people spend their whole lives with
this mentality and never get a chance to grieve and
complete what was unfinished with the particular
Recovering from a significant emotional loss is not
an easy task. Taking the actions that lead to
recovery will require your attention,
open-mindedness, willingness, and courage. It not the in but a new beginning.
Except from The Grief Recovery Method, griefrecoverymethod.com
My biological mother passed some 14 years ago and during her sickness my stepmother always made herself available. Now, I’m older, wiser and truly understand the importance of family.
My stepmother loves me unconditionally just like the Lord; despite my faults. Now, it’s my turn to be a blessing to her by assisting my half-siblings to care give for her. Oh, what a blessing…
Can you forget about yourself and bless a family member in spite of how they may have treated you growing up? Just a thought!
Blended families have several challenges and barriers. One serious problem that escalates out of control is the way the new husband and wife feels about their kid(s). Better known as the Kid Factor! Each is committed to his or her own flesh and blood, while they’re merely acquainted with the other(s). The problem is when kid(s) sense tension between the parents, they will use it as an opportunity to exploit the situation to their advantage. Therefore, set boundaries for both sets of siblings. Discuss between husband and wife who should handle the discipline and how. Then share these new rules with everyone. I like to call the Barrier Dissolver! Just remember love is the key to barrier breaker.
Are you ready for a change in your life? A new adventure, new scenery, new love, new attitude, new home, whatever your desire it begins with you. Just know changes come with a price. It’s like being in the hand of a potter; being remolded or reshaped. The end result is unknown. The bottom-line change is for the best….. GET READY FOR A CHANGE TODAY!
Here’s good news just for you. In every blended family their is drama. How much drama does your family have? Because you’re not alone……
Do you really know what your family members are thinking on a regular bases? Are you even listening to them? Do you hear them? Someone near you may be saying thinking this right now. However, you may never know because society has minimize family time. When we spend quality time together we can actually hear whats on one anthers hearts. When was the last time your family had dinner, an outing, or even prayer together. Just wondering! One of the main keys in relationship building is communication. Can you hear me?
“You must remember, family is often born of blood, but it doesn’t depend on blood. Nor is it exclusive of friendship. Family members can be your best friends, you know. And best friends, whether or not they are related to you, can be your family.”
― Trenton Lee Stewart,
Today, I thank God for the blood of Jesus Christ.
Neither is marriage to be view as a social convenience nor simply an invention for living together. It is ordained by God to be a covenant vow of companionship and mutual complement (Genesis 2:18, 22-21; Malachi 2:14; Matthew 19:3-6), and it is meant to keep you set apart in your physical relationship for one another.
The Word of God also gives instruction’s to love your spouse (Ephesians 5:25); as yourself. If you are a believer in Christ even if your spouse never practices biblical love, you can still be at peace (Psalm 119:165) and can do your part to bring about harmony in your home. But remember you first need to examine yourself before you examine your spouse (Matthew 7:1-5). After seventeen years wife my wife I realize that marriage is truly about dying to your flesh daily. Have you die to your flesh today?