Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you. The sky’s are clear, the trees are green, and the mountains are high but just for today have it your way..~ Aldous Huxley
Posts tagged ‘step family’
My biological mother passed some 14 years ago and during her sickness my stepmother always made herself available. Now, I’m older, wiser and truly understand the importance of family.
My stepmother loves me unconditionally just like the Lord; despite my faults. Now, it’s my turn to be a blessing to her by assisting my half-siblings to care give for her. Oh, what a blessing…
Can you forget about yourself and bless a family member in spite of how they may have treated you growing up? Just a thought!
Blended families have several challenges and barriers. One serious problem that escalates out of control is the way the new husband and wife feels about their kid(s). Better known as the Kid Factor! Each is committed to his or her own flesh and blood, while they’re merely acquainted with the other(s). The problem is when kid(s) sense tension between the parents, they will use it as an opportunity to exploit the situation to their advantage. Therefore, set boundaries for both sets of siblings. Discuss between husband and wife who should handle the discipline and how. Then share these new rules with everyone. I like to call the Barrier Dissolver! Just remember love is the key to barrier breaker.
Often people never can (or should) “get over” significant losses, such as the death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce or even loss of a home. The pain may always be with you in some capacity. Although much of the sharp pain of sorrow goes away in time, you may always have a sense of the loss. The grief process is not about getting over it, but about learning how to live with the reality of the loss. I believe that God has you in the palm of his hand. Just don’t give up.
“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” ― George Bernard Shaw
For decades there have been hidden within families skeletons dancing around seeking freedom. When will the day come that you will set yours free?
Remember, your enemy can’t hold you hostage if all your skeletons are out of the closet…..
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks
True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling. As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater. True love is priceless!
My wife and I recently had a nice dinner at this fabulous restaurant in the mountains. As I was glanced over the menu this thought came to mind.
Do you find that there is just not enough time in the day to complete the entire task listed on your calendar. Have you taken a pause lately to evaluate all that’s on your plate? Even when a person sits down to prepare to partake in a delightful seven-course meal they automatically have an understanding that each meal course comes in segments. So, What’s on your plate? Do you have enough quality time set aside on your plate to spend with your children, mate, work, self, parents, relatives, and friends? We must not leave out our spiritual time that keeps us balance. With all that’s going on within the market place re-evaluate today, the type of seven-course meal you are subjecting yourself to on a regular bases. It’s not that your plate is too small that’s causing your stress. Maybe, you just need to take some items off of the menu.
It’s not the make-up of your family but the deposit you’re making.
A man cannot leave a better legacy to the world than a well-educated family.” Every man and woman must decide in their lifetime what their legacy is to their children and society. Whether it is financial gains or words of wisdom, everyone has something they can leave as a legacy to humanity. It is knowing that we have a responsibility to leave a legacy that is more than half of the battle. Thomas Scott
You must deal with the truth and not run from it. Are you currently sugar coating something instead giving someone the hard facts? Just remember light overcomes darkness, so set them free today by speaking the Truth, for it is what it is!