My biological mother passed some 14 years ago and during her sickness my stepmother always made herself available. Now, I’m older, wiser and truly understand the importance of family.
My stepmother loves me unconditionally just like the Lord; despite my faults. Now, it’s my turn to be a blessing to her by assisting my half-siblings to care give for her. Oh, what a blessing…
Can you forget about yourself and bless a family member in spite of how they may have treated you growing up? Just a thought!
Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.
Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear,
whose goal will be high,
a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men,
one who will reach into the future,
yet never forget the past.
And, after all these things are his,
give him, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.
Give him humility,
so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true strength.
Then I, his father, will dare to whisper,
‘I have not lived in vain.’
Blended families have several challenges and barriers. One serious problem that escalates out of control is the way the new husband and wife feels about their kid(s). Better known as the Kid Factor! Each is committed to his or her own flesh and blood, while they’re merely acquainted with the other(s). The problem is when kid(s) sense tension between the parents, they will use it as an opportunity to exploit the situation to their advantage. Therefore, set boundaries for both sets of siblings. Discuss between husband and wife who should handle the discipline and how. Then share these new rules with everyone. I like to call the Barrier Dissolver! Just remember love is the key to barrier breaker.
My hero is not an athletic, actor or artist but my grandfather.
In every family there is someone we can admire as our hero. My grandfather was just that kind of person. He was a hard working family man who laid a foundation of life principles and lessons on how to turn your struggles into success. Every generation have been touch in one way or another by these core values.
Love – Everyone at there need level
Strength – In the mist of adversity
Tenacity – I never quite attitude
My hero left a legacy of what a husband, Godly man, father, and community leader looks like. Who is your hero?
During this holiday season that’s mean’t for rejoicing, fun and quality family time. Being in a blended family with all its different facets can bring on the blues and unneeded stress.
Here are some suggestions:
1. Don’t take on others problems.
2. Have everyone in the family Participate.
3. Love overcomes all situations.
4. Find something you love and that’s relaxing to do.
Often people never can (or should) “get over” significant losses, such as the death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce or even loss of a home. The pain may always be with you in some capacity. Although much of the sharp pain of sorrow goes away in time, you may always have a sense of the loss. The grief process is not about getting over it, but about learning how to live with the reality of the loss. I believe that God has you in the palm of his hand. Just don’t give up.
“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” ― George Bernard Shaw
For decades there have been hidden within families skeletons dancing around seeking freedom. When will the day come that you will set yours free?
Remember, your enemy can’t hold you hostage if all your skeletons are out of the closet…..
“You must remember, family is often born of blood, but it doesn’t depend on blood. Nor is it exclusive of friendship. Family members can be your best friends, you know. And best friends, whether or not they are related to you, can be your family.”
― Trenton Lee Stewart,
Today, I thank God for the blood of Jesus Christ.
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks
True love is not a fantasy, drug and more than a good feeling. As we invest time in others the dividends are far greater. True love is priceless!
Neither is marriage to be view as a social convenience nor simply an invention for living together. It is ordained by God to be a covenant vow of companionship and mutual complement (Genesis 2:18, 22-21; Malachi 2:14; Matthew 19:3-6), and it is meant to keep you set apart in your physical relationship for one another.
The Word of God also gives instruction’s to love your spouse (Ephesians 5:25); as yourself. If you are a believer in Christ even if your spouse never practices biblical love, you can still be at peace (Psalm 119:165) and can do your part to bring about harmony in your home. But remember you first need to examine yourself before you examine your spouse (Matthew 7:1-5). After seventeen years wife my wife I realize that marriage is truly about dying to your flesh daily. Have you die to your flesh today?